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5 Ways to Destroy the Shared Fantasy and Leave Your Narcissist for Good.
The shared fantasy in narcissism is a term used to describe the dynamic that develops between a narcissistic individual and their partner. It is a complex and often insidious cycle of behaviour that can leave the non-narcissistic partner feeling trapped and powerless.
Shared Fantasy, a term coined by Sander, F. (1989), indicates that narcissism is not just about a person’s self-obsession but also about their shared fantasy with their environment. This shared fantasy creates a relationship between the narcissist and their surroundings, where the narcissist sees themselves as the centre of attention and their environment as accommodating and admiring of their grandiose behaviour.
In this shared fantasy, the narcissist projects their idealised image of themselves onto the world, and the world reciprocates by accepting and supporting their self-aggrandising behaviour. The world becomes a reflection of the narcissist’s idealised self-image, further reinforcing their belief in their own grandiosity.
This shared fantasy can significantly impact the narcissist’s relationships and interactions with others. The fantasy creates a distorted reality where the narcissist perceives their own importance as being beyond question and where others are expected to cater to their every need…
