8 Myths About “The One”…

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With Valentine’s Day approaching, I thought it would be a good time to debunk some myths about “The One” and romantic love! I think every culture, social class, and society varies on their beliefs around love and pair bonding. As a therapist, I am going to share some common myths that I think are harmful to overall mental health regarding love and romance, regardless of who you are and what social group you identify with. I hope you see that the below list contains falsehoods that do not apply to everyone!

1. There is ONE person out there just for you. This is just silly to me. There are billions of people on this planet and you can fall in love and connect well with thousands of people. When looking for a lifelong mate, look for someone with similar values and interests. Those are great building blocks for successful relationships. You could fall in love and build a life with multiple eligible candidates. Please do not turn looking for “The One” into an unrealistic needle in the haystack search. Maybe change your thinking to “I am going to look for a GOOD one for me based on my goals, values, and interests.”
2. You only get one true love during your lifetime. I think this is also nonsense. I have worked with many clients who are divorced, widowed, or separated and report having multiple true loves. Be open to the learning, joys, and journeys that love can take you on. Sometimes…