PinnedMember-onlyDon’t Argue with A Covert Narcissist: Do this instead!Spotting a Covert Narcissist can be like trying to nail jelly to a wall. These are the individuals who will twist your perception, ration affection for maximum impact, and consistently draw the Victim card from their stacked deck. They are emotional magicians: one moment, they’re showering love, and the next…Psychology7 min readPsychology7 min read
PinnedMember-onlyThe Revenge Tactics of a Fragile Narcissist & The Powerful Methods to Protect Yourself.Individuals with covert narcissism exhibit extreme sensitivity to both real and perceived criticism, coupled with a deep-rooted desire for affirmation and admiration. This susceptibility, often referred to as ‘narcissistic injury,’ alongside their lack of empathy, triggers a tendency to retaliate and seek revenge when they perceive a threat to their…Psychology11 min readPsychology11 min read
PinnedMember-onlyFour Punishments Covert Narcissists Use and The Highly Effective Ways You Should Respond To Protect Yourself.Covert narcissists possess a deep-seated need for control, validation, and admiration. They employ subtle and insidious manipulative tactics as punishments in an effort to exert control over their partners. …Psychology13 min readPsychology13 min read
PinnedMember-onlyHow to Hold A Covert Narcissist Accountable: An Introduction to DARVO.DARVO, an acronym for Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender, is a defensive strategy frequently utilised by individuals accused of wrongdoing, particularly in the context of relational abuse. Coined by psychologist Jennifer J. Freyd in the late 1990s, this concept has provided a crucial framework to understand and articulate…Psychology5 min readPsychology5 min read
1 day agoMember-onlyWhen a Covert Projects Shame on You… Do This!How does one guard against this hidden emotional onslaught? The answer lies in the art of self-insulation. The Covert Narcissist is a multilayered being, one that seems relentless in their mission to demeanour, manipulate, and control their partners, colleagues, and family members. I have tackled a number of key traits…Psychology6 min readPsychology6 min read
Aug 14Member-onlyCovert Narcissistic Traits vs. Toxic Traits in a RelationshipIf you’ve ever asked, “Is my partner toxic, or are they exhibiting covert narcissistic traits?” this one’s for you. This subject comes up time and time again, whether in client meetings or reading the comments here on Medium. While this subject is as complex as it is crucial to grasp…Psychology10 min readPsychology10 min read
Aug 5Member-onlyHow Understanding Sex Offenders Can Help You Understand Your Covert Narcissist: A Deep Dive into the DARVO PathologyFollowing the interest in my previous post on “An Introduction to DARVO,” I’ve decided to do a more comprehensive exploration of this fascinating and insightful concept in the hope that it will give you the ability to recognise the often subtle yet predatory behaviours exhibited by Covert Narcissists. In this…Sexual Assault10 min readSexual Assault10 min read
Jul 24Member-onlySeeking Revenge on Your Narcissistic Ex? Read this first!Seeking revenge on a narcissistic ex to reclaim your power and control? Breaking free from a toxic relationship with a narcissistic ex is an arduous journey that leaves deep emotional scars. The aftermath of such encounters often sparks an intense desire for revenge, a quest for validation, closure, and a…Psychology5 min readPsychology5 min read
Jul 12Member-onlyThe Rise of the Female Covert Narcissist: 6 Ways to Identify Her!In recent years, a growing body of psychological research has been shedding light on an often overlooked and misunderstood phenomenon — the female covert narcissist. Though it might be tempting to believe that narcissism, particularly Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), is predominantly a male issue, this is a misconception that needs…Psychology6 min readPsychology6 min read
Jul 10Member-onlyUnderstanding Trauma from Toxic Relationships with Covert Narcissists: Healthy Ways to Cope and RecoveryWhen their fragile self-image is threatened, covert narcissists can react with anything from cold indifference to intense rage, creating an unpredictable and hostile environment, resulting in you experiencing trauma. When you are in a relationship with a fragile, covert narcissist, you may not initially notice the signs. You could be…Psychology11 min readPsychology11 min read
