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Can A Narcissist Love Me?
If you are asking yourself if a narcissist is capable of love, I am guessing you have been terribly hurt, confused, and let down by one. You are probably asking yourself, what happened to that person I used to know? How could someone do and say those things? Was it all a lie? What is/was our relationship? They do show glimmers of hope, and when things are good, they are the best. What is going on?
First, I am sorry. Trust me; I know firsthand how painful and confusing this is for your heart. The reason that people stay with narcissists for so long is that they do not want to give up hope. Hope is a very powerful human emotion and hope is what keeps you on the roller coaster ride. You live for the highs and dissociate from the lows. Been there, done that.
The answer to the question regarding if a narcissist can love in my humble opinion is, yes, but in a different way. I do think narcissists love, but sadly, they are not capable of the healthy, intimacy building, and unconditional love that humans crave. Narcissists lack something called object consistency and this is probably linked to their high rates of infidelity. If you are out of their sight, you are probably out of their mind. They struggle to feel connection for people who are not right in front of them and their feelings for you disappear quickly when a new opportunity arises.
