Covert Narcissistic Traits vs. Toxic Traits in a Relationship
If you’ve ever asked, “Is my partner toxic, or are they exhibiting covert narcissistic traits?” this one’s for you.
This subject comes up time and time again, whether in client meetings or reading the comments here on Medium.
While this subject is as complex as it is crucial to grasp, I’ll do my best to highlight the key points that make it straightforward for you to understand your partner’s behaviour so that you can distinguish between covert and toxic.
Why It’s Vital to Know the Difference
Navigating a relationship can sometimes feel like venturing into a labyrinth, especially when something feels ‘off.’ Are you dealing with a partner who’s just a bit toxic in their behaviour, or is it something more profound, like covert narcissism? Understanding this difference isn’t just about putting labels on a problem; it could genuinely save your relationship and, more importantly, your mental and emotional health.
You see, narcissism is a word we toss about all too easily these days. Didn’t like a friend’s comment about your outfit? They’re a narcissist. Did your partner forget to do the dishes? Classic narcissism, you might joke. But real narcissism — specifically covert narcissism — is a far more nuanced and serious concern.
