Don’t Argue with A Covert Narcissist: Do this instead!
Spotting a Covert Narcissist can be like trying to nail jelly to a wall. These are the individuals who will twist your perception, ration affection for maximum impact, and consistently draw the Victim card from their stacked deck. They are emotional magicians: one moment, they’re showering love, and the next, it vanishes in thin air. Their superpower is goading and arguing, anything to keep the attention and supply coming.
If you’ve read my previous post on DARVO, you’ll recall this is the Covert Narcissist’s favourite trick — their go-to move for dodging responsibility and rewriting the narrative with them as the ‘wronged’ party.
Now, I’m turning the tables and shining a light on an essential tool for your emotional toolkit: JADE.
More than just a lucky gemstone, this fabulous tool is absolutely priceless when responding to your manipulative Covert Narcissist. This strategy is your North Star when it crafting effective responses to the Covert Narcissist’s behaviours.
While DARVO is the covert narcissist’s signature move to reverse blame and wriggle out of responsibility, JADE outlines our typical, often counterproductive, reactions when trying to rationalise with or confront your covert partner.
