How Far Will, Your Covert Narcissist Ex, Go To Keep Control Of You?

Sherile Turner-Myles
7 min readMar 11, 2023

Struggling to move on from your covert narcissistic ex? Even though years have passed since your breakup, your ex might still be attempting to exert control over you, especially if you co-parent, share a friendship group, or happen to live in the same town.

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Covert narcissists will often go to great lengths to retain control over their victims. They may use manipulation, guilt-tripping, and emotional blackmail to keep the victim in a position of subservience. They may also use gaslighting tactics to make the victim doubt their own perceptions and reality.

In some cases, covert narcissists may resort to more extreme measures to retain control, such as threatening the victim with physical harm or spreading false rumours about them to others. They may also try to isolate the victim from their friends and family, making it more difficult for the victim to seek help or support.

It’s important to note that every situation is unique, and not all covert narcissists will resort to extreme measures to retain control. However, if you are in a situation where a covert narcissist is refusing to let you go and is using manipulative or abusive tactics to maintain control, it’s important to seek help and support from a qualified professional or a trusted friend or family member.

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Sherile Turner-Myles

I write about Covert Narcissism and other Personality Disorders, and how they impact relationships.