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Relationships Are The “New Black”
Boring should be the new black! It really is a staple and important component in a healthy relationship wardrobe….. but boring is something that we just do not embrace or value. We tend to want the chase, the struggle, and the triumph in the end. Even though going through the motions can be exhausting, gruelling, and frustrating.
Most guys and gals first learn about romance from fairy tales and movies and most of these storylines are filled with conflict, histrionic rollercoaster style ups and downs, drama, and a tonne of pain and suffering along the way to finding “the one”. Sadly, that dysfunctional courting style has become normalised and glamourized by the entertainment world. Fairy tales are not real folks!
To add insult to the baseline for relationship injury…if you grew up in a dysfunctional family or have been involved with abusive partners, this message has been further ingrained into your brain. The roller coaster ride is fun and good and somehow all works out in the end. Roller coaster relationships usually do not work out in the end! All relationships have problems and all couples argue and disagree, but no healthy relationship should feel like a rollercoaster.
When you spend a lot of time around volatile and difficult people, one way to make it through is to idealise the highs and dissociate from the relationship lows…
