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How To Avoid Falling For Narcissists…Pt 1
Narcissists are everywhere and so are toxic people who are not good to date or marry! It is easy to fall for one of these slimy characters. They are known for being charismatic and master manipulators which can confuse us. In my book, The Psychologist and Her Narcissists: A Guide to Surviving Toxic Relationships, I discuss the red flags to look out for to avoid a relationships with a narcissist and how to heal from one but in this article, I wanted to highlight some strategies that have helped me stay narcissist free after my dysfunctional relationships ended.
Talk to your support system about your new love and be honest! The key here is the “be honest” part. It can be embarrassing or make us feel uncomfortable to tell our support system about our new partner’s flaws and it is natural to want to share all of their strengths. Your support system can and will hold you accountable. Before you start dating again, create a support team and ask them if they are willing to give you a “wake up call” if you need one in your next relationship. Tell them that if the time comes to give you that “wake up call” to gently remind you that you requested their help with holding you accountable. Maybe even have some fun with this and you both sign a support team contract, just in case you forget the details.
