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The Scars That Narcissism Leaves And How To Learn To Heal Them
There is no way around it dear readers, if your parents, spouse, significant other, or boss was a narcissist they will have left you with some dings, bumps and bruises. This is the saddest part for me to think about as a therapist and a survivor; unfortunately, narcissists scar the ones that they are supposed to love or have trusting relationships with and the wounds left by a narcissist can run deep. Healing is a long journey that also presents unique challenges. It takes many survivors a long time to realise the degree of scarring that they have after years of dissociating, denial, and just trying to survive. It is very common to normalise the abuse, especially if it is all you have ever known.
On a more positive note, if you are lucky enough to live a long life you will have pain, suffering, and scars: life is hard and sadly, we all get nicked up along the way. No one leaves Earth without their fair share of suffering. The challenge here is to learn to love and accept yourself with those scars. It is great to work on healing them so they are no longer visible to you or to the rest of the world, but a goal to consider is to love, accept, and most importantly, not judge the imperfect you. We are all imperfect and that is okay! We are often hardest on ourselves and even though it may sound super cliché, you can work on making something…
