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What Are The Core Wounds That Attract Narcissists?
How Childhood Trauma Sets the Scene for Your Adult Relationships.
I recently began working with Joanne, a vibrant, intelligent woman in her early thirties, whose story, I’ve heard countless times before.
Joanne, despite her best efforts, found herself trapped in a cycle of toxic relationships. Each new partner seemed wonderful at first — charming, attentive, and full of promises — within a few months their true nature emerged.
The charming facade would fade, revealing a controlling, dismissive, and emotionally unavailable individual. Joanne couldn’t understand why she kept attracting these narcissistic partners, and it was wearing her down.
Joanne was tired, confused, and desperate for answers.
What Joanne didn’t realise at the time was that her pattern of attracting narcissists wasn’t just bad luck. It was deeply rooted in her childhood, in the wounds she had unknowingly carried from her relationship with her father.
In our sessions together, we uncovered the core wounds driving her choices in love. These wounds, formed in childhood, create a subconscious pull towards certain types of people — people who, unfortunately, are often narcissists.
