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When a Covert Projects Shame on You… Do This!
How does one guard against this hidden emotional onslaught? The answer lies in the art of self-insulation.
The Covert Narcissist is a multilayered being, one that seems relentless in their mission to demeanour, manipulate, and control their partners, colleagues, and family members. I have tackled a number of key traits that the vulnerable narc exhibits in their attempt to build their own self-esteem while demoralising others; in this article, I’m about to tackle one of the deeper and most damaging behaviours.
In my own experience, this has been the most insidious and manipulative of all. In fact, this trait is common in EVERY single story I have heard, with every client I have spoken to, and no doubt will resonate strongly with you.
When a Covert of Fragile Narcissist first encounters a new partner, they are sweet, alluring, helpful, and reassuring. They seemingly have the knack of saying the right thing at every given opportunity. They build their partners up, telling them how great, how beautiful, how amazing they are. This is the experience of most people when they begin dating or working with a Covert.
It would be great if this continued, but of course, the need to demolish the pedestal they custom-built with their own tongue takes over. Usually, within a matter of weeks, the Covert…
